Lets face it, letting life get too busy is extremely easy to do.
We need to make money or we lose our things, or don’t end up accumulating things in the first place. As we accumulate more things and relationships, this means more responsibility.
Jobs need to be maintained to make money. Also, our families, our homes, our toys, need maintenance to keep them from falling apart.
All the responsibility a successful life brings can be intensely pressurized!
But pressure or not, I enjoy having both nice things and healthy relationships. Even though having both of these can be a challenge, it is entirely possible to balance it all out.
Being Busy Chasing the Wrong Things is not Good for My Health.
First of all, I don’t think there is anything wrong with having nice things..
But I tell you what.. As much as I desire having these things around to take care of my wants and needs, healthy relationships are much more important.
In all actuality, the things I bring into my life are only useful in so far as they enhance the growth of my closest relationships. That and they are within my means to maintain them. Meaning I have the time, energy, and money!
Honestly, I am going to have to say that if the things chased or acquired are not useful and are outside of my means, then they really aren’t that nice at all!
Don’t get me wrong, there are many things that are outside of my means that I would adore having. But giving too much attention to these things, is horrible for all areas of my Mental and Emotional Health.
With a mind like mine, it’s too easy to get wrapped up in the not having the things I desire. All the while, being disconnected from all the beautiful things I already have in my life.
Being disconnected, even ungrateful for my current situation is a cause for unnecessary stress and mental obsession.
If I am Going to be Busy it Needs to be with Chasing the Right Things!
I have some pretty amazing things in my life these days! These things work wonderfully to enhance my closest relationships.
The work that needs to be done to maintain these things and relationships alone can sometimes be overwhelming. My wife and I work incredibly hard to keep what we have in good repair.
To be chasing too many things and relationships I don’t already have can leave my current belongings and relationships with less time for maintenance. With less maintenance means more relationship wear and tear. As well more opportunity for relationship break down.
So if I am going to be spending time dreaming big about my next things, relationships, opportunities, I sure as hell better make sure that my “house is in order.”
Having my house in order means that I do not leave my relationships and belongings too needy.
So if the car or house are breaking down, I need to get them fixed. And of course, if there are pressing issues with my wife that is causing relationship strain, that needs attention ASAP,
The same goes for all relationships that currently make up my foundation!
To be day dreaming about a bunch of new life experiences while my foundation is in shambles, now that is just plain silly. It is also a clear sign of DENIAL.
I doubt I am the only one here that lets there priorities get out of whack. Lets see if you can relate with this list. If you can then you may be a little guilty as well!
Here are some signs that show we’re BUSY getting our priorities out of whack.
- Procrastinating what should be taken care of.
- Giving more of our minds to what we want to buy than our close relationships.
- Spending far too much time staring aimlessly at our phones.
- Feeling like our healthy relationships are some burden to bare.
- Day dreaming too much at work.
Is it ever responsible to be busy
My philosophy on the subject is that if the relationships are not too needy, then we are safe to dream big about what we currently do not have.
But if we are in Imagination Land while things are falling apart around us, THEN WE NEED TO WAKE UP. Wake up and come back to reality!
Our lives need us! That goes for the lives we are currently living, and the lives that we are set to attract.
But it all starts from taking great care of our current situation, relationships and belongings. Which also builds a solid foundation to support all of the new things and relationships that will be coming.
Okay, so I began this article talking about chasing things. Now I hope it clear to you that I believe we first need to “chase” a solid foundation for our lives. We need to chase that solid relationship with our selves, families, jobs, current belongings.
We need to put in the hard work to take care of exactly where we are at. And then and only then can we responsibly chase down anything else!
Here are some thought provoking tips to help Busy ourselves responsibly.
- Spend ample time with our closest relationships.
- Take good care of our own bodies.
- Have a Gratitude practice.
- Look to create value for our relationships.
- Meditate or just take time to breathe and turn away from our thoughts.
- Discuss expenditures with everybody that will be effected.
- Ensure current belongings are well maintained.
- Don’t spend money frivolously.
- Pay attention!
- Turn off the Cell Phone from time to time.
Be Busy Being Well.
It is amazing what building a solid foundation in my life does for my mental and emotional state.
I don’t always follow my own advice perfectly, or even very well at times. But I do know that this works!
Developing healthy relationships with the people and things in my world is no mystery to me anymore. I know how to do this. But if it feels like a mystery to you, then I hope reading and applying what you’ve read here helps you immensely!
The most joyous times I have are when I look at my life and know that my hard work helped make all this happen. That my commitment to be good to what I have and the relationships I have developed, have made life amazing.
Not only that, but it has made life just a little better to all of my relationships!
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Best of luck to you with building your relationship foundation. But remember, don’t spend too much time day dreaming about the future, if the present is too messy!