In my last post on My Life Experiment I talked about Staying out of Default Mode Living.

Today we are going to talk about emotional pain, which I feel is generally the reason we hold ourselves back from living the fullness of our lives.

After I put that article out, I got the answer to a question I didn’t even realize I was asking.

Why do individuals (including myself) continually go back into living On Default, and neglect to create more positive experiences for themselves?

That was the Question. The answer that came is that LIFE HURTS.

The unfortunate truth about life is whether we show up and attempt new things or not, there will be pain.

That and LIFE doesn’t really give a damn if we are experiencing pain or not. It will not slow down for us to catch up. If we don’t change, the pain will only intensify.

In the recovery community I am a part of, there is a saying about pain and change.

It goes “Change happens when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change.”

Well actually I just stole Tony Robbins paraphrasing of the statement! But it captures the essence of an issue all beings face.

Over my last 9 years in recovery I have experienced a great deal of success! But there have been many occasions where I have had to experience great stress and worry before making a new change.

Don’t get me wrong I am not a using addict any more and that type of pain was pure torture style suffering! Even though I do suffer at times these days, the type of suffering pales in comparison to what it once was.

The pain is pain though and says something needs to happen. It is my bodies way of signaling that I need to make a move!

When my hand touches a hot stove top, the pain receptors in my brain tell me that I need to move my damn hand.

The same goes for when I am caught in a situation where I need to make a decision to move into a new direction! When I procrastinate on changing, stress builds.

Stress is pain. It is the equivalent to the burning sensation from the stove!

Throughout my life, unfortunately I have been a glutton for punishment, unable to “take my hand off of the hot stove.” Even though my flesh was searing..

For many years I came to believe that the intense stress I felt, was just the way I was. So I accepted it, and then tried to numb it out with chemicals, living inside a fantasy in my own head, and many other fruitless activities.

But then the stress was even greater than my ability to numb it out. At 26 years old, my Liver, my Pancreas, my Kidneys, my Nervous System were all ready to give up on me.

For me, there was no where else to go. I had a dilemma.

  1. Keep using, and probably kill myself.
  2. Quit using and enter into a world that freaked me out almost as much as the idea of death did.

I took the latter option and entered recovery.

This is only my bottom and it was extreme. I realize that most people (whether an addict or not) do not have to go to this extreme to change. And I am immensely grateful that I no longer do either!

We do not have to wait until the pain of staying the same is more painful than that of changing!

Great amounts of pain DO NOT need to build for us to enact substantial changes in our own lives.

Like I said above. “Our bodies tell us when something needs to change.”

For all those years, I had no intellectual clue that stress meant I needed to make a change. Thankfully I know this now!

I would say that these days I deal with the kind of stress that your average human being does.

I feel it coming, usually procrastinate some, and generally take care of things before things get too crazy inside of my head. And before the stress builds to the “pulling my hair out stage.”

I am an individual that is susceptible to high anxiety fairly easily! This means that the level of self care I need to have in my life needs to be on point.

That or my stress reaches a point where I find myself wondering if I need to be on anxiety medication once again!

There is nothing wrong with medication, but I try to look through all my other self care options before I move in the medication direction.

self care for pain

The options that I look to reduce my stress and pain are as follows:

  1. Take time to listen to my body.
  2. Make Decisions promptly when they come up.
  3. Do not Procrastinate on taking my next actions.
  4. Meditate.
  5. Talk to others.
  6. Maintain a Therapeutic Writing process.
  7. Stay physically active.
  8. Have some fun.
  9. Put the phone down for awhile and breathe.
  10. Maintain a Healthy Diet.

What these self care options do is help me to keep my stress, at a manageable level.

With my stress at a manageable level, life does not hurt quite as much as it could. And when I am not in so much emotional pain, it is so much easier to step up and take on the next amazing opportunity!

Though I also realize that the pain is also the reason why I wouldn’t want to do everything on my list that would help reduce my stress! Self care can be hard to want to do as well sometimes! But that may be for another article…

No matter what, I need to act! I just need to just toughen up and do what I need to do! knowing that if I don’t, more unnecessary pain awaits

I have chosen to live! And if I am going to live, even though i know pain is inevitable, I would rather not suffer.

That is the message I want to leave you with today.

I hope you choose to live today, to step up and keep moving through the pain. Because in my strong opinion, it is entirely worth it!

Dont give up. When the hard work gets put in, the beautiful rewards may be just around the corner. It would be a shame for anyone to give up just  before “the miracle” happens!

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Travis Hagen

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