An incredible skill that I have learned in recovery is commitment.
If you have had some trouble making positive commitments in your life, then stick around and read this.
Throughout my life I had a terribly difficult time committing to much of anything. When I did commit to something, I looked good out of the gates.
Over time though my commitment quickly descended into oblivion.
The disease of addiction had a grip on me for way too long. The only thing I really could commit myself to was numbing pain with chemicals.
By the time I used for my last time, even my commitment to using disappeared, thank god…
Of course, I don’t really call the actions taken while in active addiction, my own personal commitment. I didn’t feel in charge of that process.
I was more like a crazed squirrel, foraging to gather enough nuts to make sure it doesn’t starve during the winter.
It was pure instinct.
Pure instinct to protect me from the perceived danger of coming down. Insane or not, my brain was doing its best to protect me.
In fact, the way I ended up getting clean was because my family contacted Social Services, they worked out the process of terminating my rights to do anything but go to treatment for one year.
I was insane. They all knew it. Though it took some time to realize how crazy I actually was!
Thankfully someone else made that commitment when I couldn’t do it for myself.
It wasn’t until I began waking up from my fog in treatment and at recovery meetings that I began making the decisions that would lay the groundwork for making positive commitments.
During my time in treatment I realized that even though I was under state commitment, I needed to make this recovery and my life my own.
So, when they said I needed to go to 2 recovery meetings a week, I decided to go to one pretty much every day. And when I had to earn points to go outside by doing homework, you better believe I was all over that!
I went above and beyond, to show MYSELF that this was mine. That this is my life and I am choosing to live. And that I am not being forced to!
This is the type of mentality that has helped me to have the last almost 10 years clean! As well as accomplishing many lifelong dreams like being happily married, becoming a father, graduating college and owning a home.
The level of commitment I have for life has grown immensely over the years. And the stakes have gotten remarkably higher!
Even though the stakes are higher, the process of achieving goals stays the same. Plus, I don’t get to relax just because I have achieved a lot in the last 10 years.
My brain needs excitement, and to feel like I am living MY OWN life.
To make my life MY OWN I need to live above and beyond my current situation, while working hard in my current situation.
This is how a mind stays connected to building a great future reality, letting MYSELF know, my RELATIONSHIPS know, and even LIFE ITSELF know that I am ALL-IN!
When we show that we are ALL-IN with our commitments, the amount of blessings come into my world is tremendous!
Life can be amazing, not so damn boring. This takes effort though! And something I need consistent reminders of..
So if you are struggling with feeling like your living your own life today, make more of those decisions that show commitment to making it more of YOUR own!
It’s not like anyone else can do this for us…
In my next article we will discuss living life on default. Which to me is neglecting to make enough positive commitment with our lives.
Living on default has horribly negative effects. I will talk about them, then lay out some important guidelines for staying off default mode and, living a life worth living!
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