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Hey Everybody! Welcome back to My Life Experiment!
So, about a month ago I began maintaining a Daily Planner. I have loaded that planner up well, more than I have in a couple of years!
One thing I am realizing though is that between maintaining my recovery, my job, my family, and this Website, my mental and emotional resources are feeling Stretched.
I need a new plan with my planner, because even though I am filling it up, I am still having a difficult time of reminding myself of what I wrote down! In the last couple of weeks, I missed two work appointments, they were not job threatening misses, but I still didn’t feel like the reliable guy I am when I spaced them out.
I realize that my memory is not what it once was. It might be from the hell I put my brain through while trying to keep myself numb for all those years. And it may be from the weight of responsibility I am feeling from all the new beautiful experiences I have been attracting!
I am only 36 years old, so I don’t think I can play the age card quite yet. Heck it may be that I simply am not paying close enough attention to my life!
I remember in my Learning and Memory Psychology class that they brought up the importance of actively paying attention in being able to remember something. Go figure that the more I pay attention to my life, the more I am likely to remember what is coming next.
So why am I having a difficult time paying attention to my life? I suppose there could be a lot of answers to this question. But I have a feeling it is because, I am trying to sort out what matters to me more and what matters to me less. And as I fill my life with new responsibilities, I have to develop a new relationship with all the others!
I feel there are certain areas I am paying less attention to because I am growing in other areas. There are certain roles in my recovery community that I have had to temporarily pull back on because I need that extra energy to prepare for our baby girl. I have also ended up giving work a less attention because I am growing a blogging business that will turn into writing books!
Both of these endeavors have taken a great deal of my attention away from other important places I once focused more attention on. Is that a good thing or a bad thing? It could go either way!
The problem is if I take too much focus off my recovery community (going to meetings, mentoring, being of service) it could be easier to forget about it altogether. Same goes for work! If I spend too much time focusing on all of these other areas, my distractedness at my job may mess with my ability to work. And that could lead to not having my job anymore, which has a Health Insurance package and 401/k matching!
I suppose what I am looking for is balance! A way to allow more beautiful experiences into my life, without having to disregard all the other areas that have helped me up to this point.
In essence this is a time issue to me. I only have so many hours in a day, and I need to use it wisely. This is also why I use a planner! Though I have shown myself that writing in it isn’t enough.
I need to keep myself well-informed of what I have written. I need to give more attention to what I have coming up next! I have found in the past that finding things to be grateful has helped me be more awake for my life. I believe I have come to a solution for being more awake for areas I am losing interest in!
A new plan for using my Daily Planner!
1. Daily Planner Usage- I need to use the planner on a daily basis. Simple enough!
2. Write down more events I currently do- I will make sure I write down more than just the things that seem “significant.” Not every detail of life, just some more.
3. Give some thought to the event- As I am writing the event down I will be giving thought to a best possible outcome from the event. This isn’t meant for future tripping, so if I begin to do that I will shut it down!
4. Giving gratitude for the event- More than just giving thought to a positive result for the event, I will also give some gratitude for the positive result! Meaning I will try to invoke the feeling I would have, as if I already received the result I am looking to have.
5. Review in the morning- Every morning when I wake up I will check out my planner, and repeat steps 3 and 4 for all of the events I have written down for the day. Nothing too extensive, but just enough to get some positive vibes going for what is coming up next.
*The new routine I came to was inspired through a combination of my commitment to using a daily planner. As well as my commitment to work the a book called “The Magic.” This book is a guide to invoking a great deal of gratitude in a one month period, to turn us into magnets for amazing new experiences. “The Magic” is available for purchase through this link!
With this new way of engaging my Daily Planner, I already anticipate the benefit potential! By giving gratitude for upcoming events, I will develop more interest for showing up for them. This is only an educated guess of course, but I will be sure to let you know how my progress is going!
Thank you so much for stopping into My Life Experiment! Once again, I need to tell you that knowing that I will be sharing my experiences with you, has made my life much more entertaining! So, thank you for stopping in and if you like what you have read here, please share it on your social media!
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